Your Success Mindset Is Working Against You

Key Takeaways

• 1When all your new habits fall apart at the same time, it is not a coincidence. It is a pattern that points to a deeper issue.
• 2Every change in your behavior is actually a change in your identity. Your brain has to update its picture of who you are.
• 3Your nervous system can only handle one big identity update at a time. Trying to become a new person in five ways is a recipe for failure.
• 4That feeling of "failing" is your old identity doing its job. It pulls you back to what it recognizes as the real you.
• 5Your brain thinks the "unfamiliar" feeling of a new you is "unsafe." So it "autocorrects" back to what it knows.
• 6You cannot wait for results to believe in your new identity. The identity shift has to happen first, even if it is small.
• 7Instead of changing everything, pick one area to work on. Choose the one that would make you feel most like yourself if it changed.
• 8Burnout often comes from trying to keep up with several half-finished changes. Instead, build one solid foundation.

You probably started the year trying to change everything. Your health, your business, your routines. And by now, maybe none of them have really stuck. This is not a discipline problem, and you are not the only one. It is a sign of a deeper pattern that is working against you.

Why do all my new habits fall apart at the same time?

Have you ever noticed how your new goals seem to fall apart together? You start the year with lots of energy, but then everything crashes at the same time. Your diet, your new business project, and your plan to take better care of yourself all just stop working.

It can feel like you’ve failed. But what if it’s not really a failure? Desi Batista talks about this exact thing. She says that when everything crumbles in the same month, it’s not just bad luck. Think about it. You gain back some weight, your business slows down, and you even stop doing the small things that make you feel good. When it all happens at once, there's a reason.

when everything collapses in the same month... That's not a coincidence. That is a pattern. Desi said

This pattern is all about your identity. Changing your habits isn't just about what you do. It's about who you believe you are. Your brain has a picture of "you," and it works hard to keep you acting like that person. So when you try to change, your brain has to update its picture. This update isn't easy. It takes time and energy.

Desi explains that your mind can really only handle one big change to your identity at a time. If you try to do more, it gets overwhelmed and starts to push back. It creates friction, making everything feel harder and more forced.

Your nervous system can only run one major identity update at a time before it starts pushing you back and creating friction. Desi said

Think about what you're really trying to do when you start new goals. You're not just trying new behaviors. You are trying to become a new person in several different ways, all at once. For example:

• You don't just start eating healthy food. You have to become a person who eats healthy.
• You don't just work on a side project. You have to become a person who runs a business.
• You don't just start a skincare routine. You have to become a person who takes care of herself without feeling guilty.

Each of these is a huge update for your brain. When you try to run all of them at the same time, your brain basically says, "Nope, too much!" It pulls you back to what it knows, which is the old you. That's the moment when everything feels like it’s going wrong. You have a tough week, and suddenly you're right back where you started with your diet, your work, and your self-care. It's not because you lost your motivation. It's a sign that your identity hasn't caught up to your new actions yet.

The roller coaster is not proof of what can't change, it's proof that your identity hasn't updated yet. Desi said

So what can you do? Instead of trying to change everything, pick one thing. It doesn't have to be the biggest or hardest goal. Pick the one change that, if you made it, would make you feel most like yourself. Focus all your energy on that single area. Build a solid foundation there. Once that new identity feels real and natural, your brain will be ready to add something new.

To build real change, focus on becoming one new person, not doing five new things.

It is not a discipline problem, it is an identity problem.

Have you ever felt like you're failing at everything all at once? You might start the year with big goals for your health, your work, and your personal life. But a few months in, nothing seems to be sticking, and you can’t figure out why. When all your plans collapse around the same time, it is not a coincidence. It is a sign of something bigger going on underneath.

This isn’t about being lazy or not having enough willpower. According to Desi, it's an identity problem. Every time you try to change something you do, you’re also asking your brain to change its idea of who you are. And that’s a much bigger deal than just starting a new habit.

Every change you try to make is actually a change to who you believe you are, not just what you do, who you are. Desi said

Think about what you're really asking of yourself. You don’t just start eating differently; you have to become a person who eats that way. You don’t just start working on your business; you have to become someone who runs a business. Each one of these is a major update to your identity. The problem is, your brain can only handle so much change at once.

Desi explains that trying to change everything at the same time is a recipe for failure. Your brain simply can't process that many new identities all at once.

Your nervous system can only run one major identity update at a time before it starts pushing you back and creating friction. Desi said

When you try to become a healthy eater, a business owner, and a well-rested person all at the same time, you're overloading the system. Your brain panics. It doesn't recognize this new person who is doing all these new things. Because the new you feels unfamiliar, your brain thinks something is wrong or even unsafe. So, it pulls you back to what it knows. It pulls you back to the old you.

This is why you might have a great month where everything is working. You lose a little weight, you get a few clients, and you feel amazing. Then, one thing goes wrong, and suddenly you’re back where you started in every area. Your brain didn't fail you. It did exactly what it was designed to do.

Your nervous system corrects toward the familiar every single time. Desi said

So, what’s the fix? You have to stop trying to do it all. You need to pick one single area to focus on. This doesn't mean your other goals don't matter. It just means you have to build your new identity one piece at a time. Once one change feels solid and normal, then you can add another.

How do you pick which one to start with? It's not always about picking the biggest or most obvious goal. When you choose, try not to pick:

• The goal you think is the hardest one.
• The one you think other people want for you.
• The one that causes you the most guilt.

Instead, Desi says to choose the one thing that would make you feel most like yourself. Start there. Give your brain enough time and repetition to believe that this one change is real and permanent.

Trying to become a whole new person all at once is exactly why none of the changes are sticking.

Your brain can only update one big thing at a time.

Have you ever tried to change a bunch of things in your life all at once? Maybe at the start of the year, you decided this was the year you’d get healthy, start a business, and finally get more sleep. But a few months later, nothing has really stuck. You’re not doing any of them very well, and you feel like a failure. It turns out, this isn't a problem with your motivation. It's actually about how your brain is wired.

Every time you try to change something you do, you're also trying to change who you see yourself as. Your brain has to update its picture of you. And according to Desi, your brain can only handle so much change at one time.

Your nervous system can only run one major identity update at a time before it starts pushing you back and creating friction. Desi said

Think about what you're really asking your brain to do. You’re not just trying out a few new habits. You’re trying to become a totally different person in many ways, all at the same time. You’re asking your brain to accept that you are now:

• Someone who eats healthy every day.
• Someone who is a successful business owner.
• Someone who takes good care of herself without feeling guilty.
• Someone who goes to bed on time every night.

Each of these is a huge update to your identity. When you try to run all of them at once, your brain gets overloaded. It sees all this new, unfamiliar behavior as a threat. The brain’s main job is to keep you safe, and to your brain, "safe" means "familiar." It knows the old you. It doesn't know this new person who does all these new things.

When you start losing weight, looking different, running a business, treating yourself like someone who matters, that can feel unfamiliar at a deep level. And your nervous system interprets unfamiliar as unsafe. So it autocorrects. Desi said

This "autocorrect" is that moment when things suddenly fall apart. You have a great month, you lose some weight, your business is doing well, and you feel amazing. Then one small thing goes wrong, and suddenly you’re back where you started. You didn't just get lazy. Your brain hit the brakes and pulled you back to what it knows. And because it sees all these changes as one big, scary thing, it hits the brakes on everything at once.

This is why it feels like you fail at everything together. The changes you’re trying to make aren’t separate. They are all connected to you and your sense of self.

So it's not that you have failed at five things. The five things are not actually separate, right? They're all you, they all share the same route. Desi said

So what can you do? Instead of trying to become five new people at once, just pick one. Desi says you should choose the one change that, if it started working, would make you feel the most like your true self. It doesn’t have to be the biggest or hardest one. Start there. Give your brain time to accept that one new identity. Once that feels solid and natural, you can add another piece.

Building a new you works best when you do it one piece at a time.

What does an "identity update" even mean?

Have you ever tried to change a few things about your life at once? Maybe you wanted to lose weight, start a business, and finally get a good night's sleep. But a few weeks in, everything starts to fall apart. It's not because you're lazy or don't have enough discipline. The real issue is something Desi calls an "identity update."

Every time you try a new habit, you're not just changing what you do. You're trying to change who you believe you are. And that, it turns out, is a big project for your brain. It’s like updating the software on your phone. It takes time and energy, and you can’t run too many updates at the same time or the whole system crashes.

Desi explains that your brain has a picture of who "you" are. To make a new behavior stick, your brain has to change that picture.

Every time you try to change a behavior, your brain has to update its picture of who you are, right? The way you see yourself. Desi said

This update isn't free. It costs your body real energy. And it takes a lot of repetition before the new thing feels natural instead of forced. The problem is, your brain can really only handle one of these big identity updates at a time. When you ask it to change five things at once, it gets overwhelmed and just pushes you back to what it already knows.

Think about what you're really trying to do when you want to make a big change.

• You don't just start eating healthy food. You have to become a person who eats healthy.
• You don't just start working on your side hustle. You have to become a business owner.
• You don't just start a skincare routine. You have to become someone who takes care of themselves without feeling guilty.

Each one of those is a totally different update. Trying to run them all at once is why you feel stuck. Your brain just can't keep up with all the new files you're trying to install.

Your nervous system can only run one major identity update at a time before it starts pushing you back and creating friction. Desi said

This is why you might see some progress and then suddenly slide backward. That week where everything was going great? You lost a few pounds, your business had a good month, and you felt amazing. Then one little thing goes wrong, and a few weeks later, you're back where you started. That's not you failing. That's your brain's "autocorrect" kicking in. It senses you're moving too far away from the old, familiar version of you, and its job is to bring you back to safety. The familiar feels safe, even if it's not what you want anymore.

The roller coaster is not proof of what can't change, it's proof that your identity hasn't updated yet. Desi said

So, what can you do? Instead of trying to fix everything, pick one thing. Just one. It doesn’t have to be the hardest or most important one. Pick the change that, if you made it happen, would make you feel the most like your true self. Focus all your energy there. Let that one new identity become solid and natural. Once it is, your brain will have a stable foundation to add the next change.

**Trying to change who you are in five ways at once is why none of them stick. **

That crash you feel is not failure.

Have you ever felt like you were finally making real progress, and then it all just fell apart? One minute things are going great, and the next you're right back where you started, or maybe even further behind. It's a frustrating feeling, and it makes you think you just don't have what it takes. But what if that big crash isn't a sign that you failed?

Desi talks about this exact moment. You've been working so hard. Maybe you lost a few pounds. Your new business had a really good month. You were sticking to a new routine, getting up early, and you felt amazing. You start thinking, "This is it. This time is different. I'm finally getting somewhere." Everything feels like it's clicking into place.

And then, it happens. A tough week hits you. Or maybe business slows down for a few days. One little thing goes wrong, and suddenly it all starts to unravel. Within a few weeks, you've gained the weight back, the business is quiet again, and you're too tired to even think about your routine. It feels like a total collapse, and it hits everything at once.

According to Desi, this isn't a coincidence. It's not a sign that you're undisciplined or a failure. It’s actually your brain and body doing exactly what they are designed to do.

And even though that feels like failure, it's not. That is your nervous system doing exactly what it was built to do. It's doing its job, bringing you back to what it recognizes as you. Desi

Think about it like this. Your brain has a picture of who "you" are. It's a picture built over years. When you start making big changes, like eating differently or running a business, you are creating a new you. That new person feels unfamiliar. To your nervous system, which is always on the lookout for danger, "unfamiliar" can feel the same as "unsafe."

And your nervous system interprets unfamiliar as unsafe. So it autocorrects. Desi

It’s like your brain is a worried parent. It sees you wandering off into new territory (the person who runs a successful business) and it panics. It yells, "Get back here where it's safe!" and pulls you back to the old, familiar version of you. That’s the "autocorrect" Desi is talking about. It’s not trying to hurt you. It’s trying to protect you from the unknown.

This process usually looks something like this:

• You start making real, positive changes in your life.
• You see progress, and the new you starts to feel more real.
• Your nervous system detects this "unfamiliar" person and flags it as potentially unsafe.
• It pulls the emergency brake, bringing you back to the familiar identity it knows.
• All your new habits crash at once because they are all part of that same "unfamiliar" new identity.

This whole up-and-down cycle can feel like being on a terrible roller coaster. But it’s not proof that you can't change. It’s actually proof that your internal idea of yourself just hasn't caught up with your actions yet.

The roller coaster is not proof of what can't change, it's proof that your identity hasn't updated yet. Desi

So, the next time you feel everything starting to slide, try not to get mad at yourself. Instead, just notice it. See it for what it is: a scared part of you trying to keep you safe. You don't have to let it take the wheel, but you can acknowledge it. This simple shift in how you see the "crash" can be the first step toward making it less likely to happen next time.

That backward slide you feel is not you failing; it's your old self trying to pull you back to safety.

Why does my brain think "new" is "unsafe"?

Have you ever been on a roll, making real progress, and then it all just...stops? You have a great month with your side business, you're sticking to your new routine, and you feel good. Then, out of nowhere, one hard week hits and everything crumbles. Suddenly you’re right back where you started. It feels like you’ve failed, but it’s not a failure. It’s actually your nervous system doing exactly what it was made to do.

Your brain has one main job: keep you alive. To do that, it tries to keep things predictable and familiar. When you start making big changes in your life, you’re not just changing your habits. You're changing who you are. This new version of you can feel really strange to your brain. And your brain has a simple rule. If something feels strange or unfamiliar, it might be dangerous.

Desi explains that our brains can’t tell the difference between "new" and "unsafe."

And your nervous system interprets unfamiliar as unsafe. So it autocorrects. Desi said

Think about it like the autocorrect on your phone. You type a new word it doesn't recognize, and it immediately changes it back to a word it already knows. Your brain does the same thing with you. When you start acting like this new person who runs a business, feels good in their body, and takes care of themself, your brain says, "Whoa, I don't recognize this person. Let's change them back to the 'normal' version we know."

This isn't you losing motivation. It's an automatic response. Everything was going great, and then suddenly it wasn't. That’s the old identity pulling you back.

The old identity kicked in because the new version of you...she's still new, still unfamiliar to you, still unfamiliar to your nervous system, and your nervous system corrects toward the familiar every single time. Desi said

This correction can feel like a total collapse because all your changes are connected. The new eating habits, the business growth, the self-care routine, they are all part of one project: creating a new you. So when your brain hits the brakes, it slams them on everything at once.

This is often tied to a much deeper question that our brain is asking. Underneath it all, your brain is wondering if you can handle this new life.

Do you actually believe that you are someone who gets to have all of this? Do you deserve it? Desi said

Most of us try to answer that by getting results first. We think, "If I lose the weight, then I'll believe I'm a healthy person." But we have it backward. The old identity stops us before we can get enough results to believe. The key is to help your identity move first, even just a little bit. You have to start making your brain feel safe with the new you.

Here are a few ways to start:

• Pick one thing. Don't try to change your whole life at once. Give your brain one new identity to get used to.
• Expect it to feel weird. When you feel that pull to go back to your old ways, recognize it for what it is: your brain trying to keep you safe. Don't fight it, just notice it and keep going.
• Talk to yourself differently. Start telling yourself, "I am a person who..." and fill in the blank with your one change. Do this even when it feels like a lie.
• Celebrate tiny wins. Didn’t hit your sales goal but made five calls? Great. Didn’t go to the gym but took a walk? That counts. Give your brain proof that the new behavior is normal and safe.

Your real job is to make the "new you" feel familiar to your brain, not to get perfect results overnight.

You are trying to prove it to yourself backward.

Have you ever told yourself that you'll finally believe in yourself after you get the results? Maybe you think, "Once I get my business to make some real money, then I'll feel like a real entrepreneur." Or, "If I can just lose the weight, then I'll feel like a healthy person." Most of us think this way. We try to collect proof first, hoping that our belief about ourselves will follow.

But it usually doesn't work out like that. You get a little bit of a win. You lose five pounds or sign a new client. For a moment, you feel like it's finally happening! But then something pulls you back to where you started. You can't seem to make the proof stick. Desi Batista says this is because we have the whole thing backward. We're trying to prove our new identity to our old self, and our old self isn't buying it.

Most people try to answer that by getting results first. Get the body and then believe it. Get the clients and then believe it. Desi said

The problem is that your brain is very comfortable with who you are right now. When you start to change, even in good ways, it feels strange to your system. Your brain’s main job is to keep you safe, and it thinks "unfamiliar" is just another word for "unsafe." So when you start making progress, your brain gets nervous and tries to "correct" you back to what it knows. It brings you back to the familiar you. This is why you can have a great week, or even a great month, and then suddenly find yourself right back where you began. Your old identity is interrupting your progress before you can build any real momentum.

The belief is supposed to follow the proof, but the proof never stacks up fast enough because the old identity keeps interrupting it before it can. Desi said

This backward approach looks like a lot of waiting and hoping. You might be:

• Waiting to feel confident before you share your work with others.
• Trying to get to a certain number on the scale before you buy clothes you like.
• Hoping that a full calendar of clients will finally make you feel legitimate.
• Thinking you have to earn the right to rest or take care of yourself.

So what are you supposed to do instead? You have to flip the process around. The belief has to come first, even if it's just a tiny little bit. You have to decide who you are first, and then let that guide what you do.

The identity has to move first, even if it's just a little, even just enough to let one area build real evidence. Desi said

This doesn't mean you have to stand in the mirror and lie to yourself. It means making a small, simple decision. For example, instead of a huge goal like "I will make six figures," you make an identity decision: "I am a business owner who reaches out to one new person every day." Instead of "I need to lose 30 pounds," you decide, "I am a person who moves my body for 15 minutes every morning." That tiny shift in who you believe you are comes first. Then, the action of doing it becomes the evidence that proves your new identity is real. It's much less scary for your brain this way, so it's less likely to hit the panic button and pull you back.

You have to decide who you are first, then go get the evidence to prove it.

So what is the right way to make a change?

So if trying to change everything at once is a recipe for disaster, what are you supposed to do? You know you want to make progress. You want to feel better about your health, your work, and your life. But it feels like every time you try, you end up right back where you started.

Thankfully, Desi has a simple solution. It might not be what you want to hear, but it's what actually works. Instead of trying to juggle five big changes, you just focus on one.

Here's what actually works: pick one area. Desi said

That's it. Just one. This isn't about giving up on your other goals. It's about being smart with your energy. Your brain can only handle so much change at one time. Think of it like a computer trying to install a bunch of new programs all at once. It would slow down, freeze, and maybe even crash. Your brain works the same way. When you try to become a new person in five different ways, it gets overwhelmed and pulls you back to what it knows is normal.

But if you give it just one new thing to work on, it can handle that. It can learn the new behavior until it feels natural. This creates a solid foundation inside you.

your brain can only build one solid identity at a time. And that foundation needs to go deep before you add the next thing on top of it. Desi said

Okay, but which area do you pick? Should you start with the hardest one, like losing 50 pounds? Or the one you think will make you the most money? Desi says no. Don't pick the thing that seems most impressive to other people.

Instead, she tells us to pick the one that connects with who you really are. You’re not looking for the biggest goal. You’re looking for the one change that makes you feel good. The one that feels less like a chore and more like you’re finally coming home to yourself.

To figure out your "one thing," ask yourself these questions:

• What change would make me feel a little more like myself?
• Which goal feels less like a struggle and more like a relief?
• If I could only fix one area this month, which one would improve my mood the most?
• What is one small action that would make me feel like I’m taking care of myself?

When you focus on that one thing, something interesting happens. You start to build real confidence. You prove to yourself that you can make a change and stick with it. That single success creates a new, stable center for you. And once that center is strong, the other changes start to feel easier. Getting that one thing right gives you the footing you need to start the next thing without everything else falling apart. The trap we all fall into is thinking we have to do everything now. But Desi reminds us that this mindset is the actual problem.

trying to fix all three is exactly what's been keeping you at zero in all three. Desi said

It feels backward, but by doing less, you actually accomplish more in the long run. Take a minute right now and forget about your huge list of goals. If you could only pick one to work on, which one would make you feel the most like you? That’s your starting point. Just one. Give it your attention and let it become a real, solid part of who you are.

Focus on building one solid part of who you are, and the rest will follow.

What does it feel like when it is working?

What does it feel like when doing the right thing isn't so hard? Imagine you just do the things you want to do without having to convince yourself first. It's not a superpower. It's what happens when your habits finally match who you believe you are.

Think about all the goals you might have set at the start of the year. Maybe you wanted to lose weight, start a business, and finally create a good morning routine. For a few weeks, it works. You feel great. But then, a tough week hits. Suddenly, you've gained back a few pounds, you haven't worked on the business, and your morning routine is gone. It feels like you failed at three different things. But what's really going on is that they are all connected. You were trying to become a new person in three ways at once, and your brain got overwhelmed and pulled you back to what it knows.

When you finally get one part of your identity to stick, life feels different. You stop having to fight yourself all the time. As Desi explained, you just get it done.

You don't white knuckle the routine. You don't need to motivate yourself back into every habit you dropped last week. You just do it.

Desi said

This is what it feels like when a change becomes real. It’s not about having more willpower. It's about the new habit feeling normal, like it's just a part of you now. It's like brushing your teeth. You don't have to talk yourself into it every morning. You just do it because you're a person who brushes their teeth. The habit is consistent with your identity.

And it's not because it's easy, because it's consistent with who you are.

Desi said

When a habit is part of who you are, you don't lose all your progress after one bad day. You just get back to it. This constant struggle to maintain changes you haven't fully accepted is exhausting. Desi mentions that in 2024, 59% of women felt burned out. A lot of that comes from trying to manage five half-finished changes at the same time.

So, what can you do instead? The answer is surprisingly simple. You have to pick one thing. Just one. Don't pick the biggest or hardest goal. Pick the one that would make you feel most like your true self if you started making progress on it. Forget everything else for now. When you focus on one area, you give your brain a chance to actually build a new belief about who you are.

• You give that one change enough time to stick.
• You get to repeat the new behavior over and over.
• Your brain can build a solid foundation.
• You stop feeling like you're failing at everything.

You haven't been failing at five separate things. You've been trying to do one huge thing, all at once, which is almost impossible.

You're not failing at five things. You're trying to rebuild who you are. That's one project. And it starts with one decision.

Desi said

By picking one area, you give that one project a real shot. Once that first identity is solid, you can add another one. But you have to build the foundation first, one brick at a time. It’s not about fixing your business, your health, and your routine all today. It’s about building one stable center that everything else can grow from later.

Focusing on one change at a time is how you end up changing everything.

You are not failing at five different things.

It feels like you’re juggling five different balls and dropping all of them. You’re trying to lose weight, build your business, get a real routine, and maybe even just brush your hair consistently. But none of it seems to be working, and you end up feeling like a failure in every area of your life. What if you're not actually failing at five different things? What if it's really just one thing?

Desi explains that when it feels like everything is falling apart at the same time, it’s not a coincidence. The weight comes back, the business slows down, and you stop doing the little things that make you feel good. All of these goals are connected. They aren't separate problems to solve. They’re all part of one huge project: you are trying to rebuild who you are.

And you're not failing at five things. You're trying to rebuild who you are. That's one project. And it starts with one decision. Desi said

Think about it. You don’t just start eating better; you have to become someone who eats healthy. You don’t just work on your side hustle; you have to become a business owner. Every one of these changes is a major update to how you see yourself. Your brain can only handle one of these big updates at a time. When you try to run five at once, your mind’s system crashes. It gets overwhelmed and pulls you right back to what’s familiar, which is your old self.

This is why you make progress and then slide backward. You lose a few pounds, get some clients, and feel like this time is different. Then one bad week hits, and suddenly you’re back at square one, not just with one thing, but with everything. It’s not because you lack discipline. It’s your brain doing its job, pulling you back to the identity it recognizes.

The good news is that you don't have to keep riding this roller coaster. The solution is simple, even if it’s not easy to hear. You have to pick one thing. Desi puts it very bluntly.

You can't fix the weight, the business, and the self-care simultaneously. I know that's not what you want to hear, but trying to fix all three is exactly what's been keeping you at zero in all three. Desi said

So what do you do? You choose one area to focus on. It doesn't have to be the biggest or most important-sounding goal. It should be the one that, if it started to improve, would make you feel most like yourself. By focusing on one thing, you give your brain a chance to build a solid foundation.

• You stop the cycle of starting and stopping everything.
• You give yourself a chance to see real, lasting progress in one spot.
• You create a stable center that you can build on later.
• You prove to yourself that change is possible.

All those other goals aren't going away. They're just waiting their turn. Once you solidify one part of your new identity, it becomes so much easier to add the next piece. Your changes need a strong base to be built on.

They need time, they need repetition, and one solid foundation to build from. Desi said

You’re not failing. You’ve just been trying to build a new house without pouring the foundation first. Stop trying to fix everything. Instead, pick one project and see it through.

Your job isn't to fix five different problems, but to choose the one decision that starts to build a new you.

Listen to the full conversation

If this conversation made you think about your own goals, you will want to listen to the whole episode. Desi explains more about how these identity shifts work. You can play the full episode here. You can also connect with Desi on her social media channels listed in the show notes. Be sure to subscribe to the podcast so you do not miss what is next.